I'm not a Humanist, can I still Have a Humanist wedding?

When they look at humanism, many people discover they are actually humanist in outlook without having realised it.

If you are non-religious and look to science, reason, empathy, and compassion in order to live an ethical and meaningful life, then you’re in the right place: you’re amongst those with a humanist outlook, and my wedding ceremonies offer you a non-religious, personal, and meaningful way to celebrate your marriage.

It has to be non-religious? Can't my mum read a passage from the bible? I don't want to offend or upset her.

It's common that nearly every ceremony is attended by guests of different faiths, beliefs and of none, and feel passionately that everyone present should feel comfortable and involved. This is really important.

The focus of your humanist wedding will be on the two of you and your relationship and what you value. Underpinning it all will be the humanist view of long-term partnerships as being strongest when built upon support, equality and honesty.

 

It’s difficult to imagine anyone would have a problem with that!

Do you perform ceremonies for same sex couples?

Of course!! Love is love.

Every couple should be able to celebrate the love they have for each other and I'm happy to work with any and all couples. 

Humanists UK celebrants have been conducting ceremonies for same sex couples for at least two decades and were instrumental in successfully campaigning for legal same-sex marriage in Great Britain and most recently Northern Ireland.

 

Although same sex marriages are not yet legal in Northern Ireland civil partnerships are. But that’s not to stop the celebrations and I could certainly host a celebration for a civil partnership.

So will my wedding be legal?

Yes! It can be if that's what you need.

Due to recent changes in the law as long as I marry you in Northern Ireland the ceremony will have legal standing (not for same sex couples just yet). This does have to take place at a venue registered for civil ceremonies however so if your dream is to have your wedding ceremony in a field for example under current legislation you would have to perform the legal element at a registry office before or after. This in no way takes away from your ceremony which many couples feel is the 'real ceremony' anyway. that's certainly how I felt about my own.

 

It doesn't have to be a legal ceremony though. Humanist wedding ceremonies are about the celebration of the couple, the legal bit is a bonus if you need that as well but not having it in no way lessens or changes the way we put together your ceremony.

Also, if you are doing the legal bit first there's no reason I can't perform the ceremony for you elsewhere. I love to travel so I'm more than happy to hop on a plane, train or automobile to your destination. I work between London and Belfast in NI so both options work for me. 

Still have questions about this? Drop me an email and I'll be happy to help clarify for you.

So I can get married anywhere?!

Yes!

That's the beauty of a Humanist wedding ceremony. You can get married absolutely anywhere you like from your gran's backyard, to your friends restaurant or a beach somewhere in the sun (hint*).

 

There are no restrictions allowing this to be entirely personal to you. Exciting isn't it?

Putting together a whole ceremony seems a bit daunting and a lot of work...

That's where I come in.

There is of course more work involved than attending a civil ceremony or church wedding where there is an established script that is used all the time but don't you want your wedding to be more than just 'insert name here'?

It's absolutely worth the effort and is actually an enjoyable and eye opening journey for many couples. Remember this is all about what you like and your story which is something you are the absolute experts on so, with my guidance you'll find you have loads of ideas and input. 

It's great to include friends and family in the ceremony if this works for you but again if not, you don't have to. 

You can write your own vows if you wish, incorporate ones from a civil ceremony or we can adapt more traditional ones.

 

If you don't know where to start don't worry! I'm here to help with all the options. A Humanist ceremony is all about the personal, so there's no way it will be like anyone else's celebration.

How long does the ceremony last?

How long do you want it?

Again, it's individual to you but 20-40 minutes is a good amount of time to ensure you and your guests have said what you want to say and gives a good shape to the celebration. 

Can I include symbolic rituals though if the ceremony is non-religious?

Absolutely.

Symbolic gestures or rituals if you like can provide an incredibly strong physical & visual representation of your intentions for each other as a couple. Theres lots to choose from or we can create one of your own. Also, I love performing them as there is a bit of theatre about them and that's totally my thing.

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