Science / Factual
Proximity
We joined the dots
from A to B,
the line we drew
from you to me,
traced empty shores
across the sea,
over mountain top,
past forest tree,
along the roads
and walking tracks,
all bridges burned,
no looking back,
for the love
we have,
no gate can stop,
no barking dog
or bolted lock,
for what is real
is meant to be,
when two hearts
beat-
in proximity.
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A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his or her solitude. Once the realisation is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue to exist, a wonderful living side by side can grow up, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole and against a wide sky.
Excerpt: The Amber Spyglass
I will love you forever; whatever happens.
Till I die and after I die, and when I find my way out of the land of the
dead,
I'll drift about forever, all my atoms, till I find you again.
I'll be looking for you, every moment, every single moment.
And when we do find each other again,
we'll cling together so tight that nothing and no one will ever tear us
apart.
Every atom of me and every atom of you.
We'll live in birds and flowers and dragonflies and pine trees and in
clouds and in those little specks of light you see floating in sunbeams.
And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won't just be able
to take one, they'll have to take two, one of you and one of me, we'll be
joined so tight.
From: The Irrational Season
Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made. Ultimately
two people who love each other must ask themselves how much theyhope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are
willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of
love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If
we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people
think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into
all the risks of freedom and the risk of love which is permanent; into that
love which is not possession but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn
another person.
When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-
creation which is our human calling.
The Mathematics Of Love Is Me!
Do the Math, use a pen,
Take your time read this well,
You will see why you should consider me.
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Add, plus, subtract, multiply,
Then divide this problem mathematically,
Then you will see why you should consider me.
Take, milk plus, sugar, plus honey equals to me
Passion, plus satisfaction, multiply 2 by gratification is equals to me.
Take sex plus, intensifying multiply 3 by satisfying is equal to me.
Take, honestly plus fidelity plus 1 equals to me
Take, blessedness, plus happiness plus cheerfulness equals to me
Sensational plus smile plus 1 bucket of laughter equals to me
Take friendship subtract hardship is equals to me
Take faithfulness plus the end of time is equals to me
subtract, dishonesty subtract jealousy, subtract criminality equals me
Add friend plus, lover plus Excellent soul mate equals to me
Add adore plus care, plus cherish equals to me
Love plus you equals to me
Add it all up, divide it by 2, what's the answer?
If you are smart, you will know the answer is me!
I hope this Math's makes you realize
Mathematically you should consider me
Now you have done your Math's
The mathematics of love is me!
The Present
For the present, there is just one moon,
though every level pond gives back another.
But the bright disc shining in the black lagoon,
perceived by astrophysicist and lover,
Is milliseconds old. And even that light’s
seven minutes older than its source.
And the stars we think we see on moonless nights
are long extinguished. And, of course,
this very moment, as you read this line,
is literally gone before you know it.
Forget the here-and-now. We have no time
but this device of wantonness and wit.
Make me this present then: your hand in mine,
and we’ll live out our lives in it.
'To Diego And Frieda (From the film Frieda)
I don’t believe in marriage. I really don’t! Let me be clear about that. I think at worst it’s a hostile political act – a way for small-minded men to keep women in the house and out of the way, wrapped up in the guise of tradition – and conservative, religious nonsense. At best it’s a happy delusion – it’s two people who truly love each other and have no idea how truly miserable they’re about to make each other. But when two people know all of that and decide, with eyes wide open, to face each other and get married anyway well, then, I don’t think it’s conservative or delusional. I think it’s radical and courageous and very romantic.
Maybe
Maybe …. We are supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting
the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will
know how to be grateful for that gift
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Maybe …. it is true that we don’t know what we have got until we lose it,
but it is also true that we don’t know what we have been missing until it
arrives
Maybe … the happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of
everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along
their way
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Maybe …the best kind of love is the kind you can sit on the sofa together
and never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best
conversation you've ever had
Maybe … you shouldn't go for looks; they can deceive. Don’t go for
wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile,
because it only takes a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
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Maybe … you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet,
enough trials to make you strong, enough sorry to keep you human, and
enough hope to make you happy
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Maybe … Love is not about finding the perfect person, it’s about learning
to see an imperfect person perfectly.
The Mayonnaise Jar And The Two Beers
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.
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A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in
front of him.
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When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty
mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls..
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He then asked the students if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.
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The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
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The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'
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The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space
between the sand.The students laughed..
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'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life..
The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your
health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else
was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
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The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house
and your car.
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The sand is everything else---the small stuff .
'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for
the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.
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If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never
have room for the things that are important to you.
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Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Spend time with your children.
Spend time with your parents.
Visit with grandparents.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your spouse out to dinner.
Play another 18.
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There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.
Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter.
Set your priorities.
The rest is just sand.
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One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer
represented.
The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'
The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem,
there's always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.