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Proximity

We joined the dots

from A to B,

the line we drew

from you to me,

traced empty shores

across the sea,

over mountain top,

past forest tree,

along the roads

and walking tracks,

all bridges burned,

no looking back,

for the love

we have,

no gate can stop,

no barking dog

or bolted lock,

for what is real

is meant to be,

when two hearts

beat-

in proximity.

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A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his or her solitude. Once the realisation is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue to exist, a wonderful living side by side can grow up, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole and against a wide sky.

Excerpt: The Amber Spyglass

I will love you forever; whatever happens.

Till I die and after I die, and when I find my way out of the land of the

dead,

I'll drift about forever, all my atoms, till I find you again.

I'll be looking for you, every moment, every single moment.

And when we do find each other again,

we'll cling together so tight that nothing and no one will ever tear us

apart.

Every atom of me and every atom of you.

We'll live in birds and flowers and dragonflies and pine trees and in

clouds and in those little specks of light you see floating in sunbeams.

And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won't just be able

to take one, they'll have to take two, one of you and one of me, we'll be

joined so tight.

From: The Irrational Season

Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made. Ultimately

two people who love each other must ask themselves how much theyhope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are

willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of

love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created.

To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If

we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people

think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into

all the risks of freedom and the risk of love which is permanent; into that

love which is not possession but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn

another person.

When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-

creation which is our human calling.

The Mathematics Of Love Is Me!

Do the Math, use a pen, 

Take your time read this well, 

You will see why you should consider me. 

Add, plus, subtract, multiply, 

Then divide this problem mathematically, 

Then you will see why you should consider me. 

 

Take, milk plus, sugar, plus honey equals to me

Passion, plus satisfaction, multiply 2 by gratification is equals to me. 

 

Take sex plus, intensifying multiply 3 by satisfying is equal to me. 

Take, honestly plus fidelity plus 1 equals to me 

Take, blessedness, plus happiness plus cheerfulness equals to me 

Sensational plus smile plus 1 bucket of laughter equals to me 

 

Take friendship subtract hardship is equals to me 

Take faithfulness plus the end of time is equals to me 

subtract, dishonesty subtract jealousy, subtract criminality equals me

Add friend plus, lover plus Excellent soul mate equals to me 

Add adore plus care, plus cherish equals to me 

 

Love plus you equals to me 

Add it all up, divide it by 2, what's the answer? 

If you are smart, you will know the answer is me! 

 

I hope this Math's makes you realize 

Mathematically you should consider me 

Now you have done your Math's 

The mathematics of love is me!

The Present

For the present, there is just one moon,

though every level pond gives back another.
 

 

But the bright disc shining in the black lagoon,

perceived by astrophysicist and lover,
 

 

Is milliseconds old. And even that light’s

seven minutes older than its source.
 

 

And the stars we think we see on moonless nights

are long extinguished. And, of course,
 

 

this very moment, as you read this line,

is literally gone before you know it.
 

 

Forget the here-and-now. We have no time

but this device of wantonness and wit.
 

 

Make me this present then: your hand in mine,

and we’ll live out our lives in it.

'To Diego And Frieda (From the film Frieda)

I don’t believe in marriage. I really don’t! Let me be clear about that. I think at worst it’s a hostile political act – a way for small-minded men to keep women in the house and out of the way, wrapped up in the guise of tradition – and conservative, religious nonsense. At best it’s a happy delusion – it’s two people who truly love each other and have no idea how truly miserable they’re about to make each other. But when two people know all of that and decide, with eyes wide open, to face each other and get married anyway well, then, I don’t think it’s conservative or delusional. I think it’s radical and courageous and very romantic.

Maybe

Maybe …. We are supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting

the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will

know how to be grateful for that gift

Maybe …. it is true that we don’t know what we have got until we lose it,

but it is also true that we don’t know what we have been missing until it

arrives

 

Maybe … the happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of

everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along

their way

Maybe …the best kind of love is the kind you can sit on the sofa together

and never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best

conversation you've ever had

Maybe … you shouldn't go for looks; they can deceive. Don’t go for

wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile,

because it only takes a smile to make a dark day seem bright.

Maybe … you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet,

enough trials to make you strong, enough sorry to keep you human, and

enough hope to make you happy

Maybe … Love is not about finding the perfect person, it’s about learning

to see an imperfect person perfectly.

The Mayonnaise Jar And The Two Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in

front of him.

When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty

mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls..

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space

between the sand.The students laughed..

'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to

recognize that this jar represents your life..

 

The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your

health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else

was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house

and your car.

The sand is everything else---the small stuff .

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for

the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never

have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children.

Spend time with your parents.

Visit with grandparents.

Take time to get medical checkups.

Take your spouse out to dinner.

Play another 18.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter.

Set your priorities.

The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer

represented.

The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'

The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem,

there's always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

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